Failure to communicate or inability to communicate effectively; this is often the reason why relationships fail, some even before they start.  With online dating, effective communication is even more crucial because the only connection two people will have and on which they can build a relationship that they can also pursue in the real world is their online communication.

Especially when someone is more used to and comfortable with expressing themselves through physical contact and actions, communication through words can be difficult and even overwhelming.  But as long as one is honest about his/her emotions, then the words should come easily.  Communication, however, is a two-way street; one must know not only how to express himself/herself effectively, but also how to listen.

Ironically, the amazing advancements in communication technology have not made it any easier for people to communicate effectively with each other, especially where relationships are concerned.  Online dating is a very good example.  Dating websites allow people from all over the world to meet and develop relationships and the various and very convenient messaging tools available online make connecting to each other as easy as clicking a button.  But relationships continue to fail despite these added technological advantages.

These advancements, of course, only provide us with better and cooler tools to stay connected; but it is still up to us to build a personal connection with another individual through effective communication.  These remarkable tools are more like extensions of our fingers and vocal chords; we still have to use our head and emotions to effectively connect to another person.

In the real world, we are also aided by our gestures and our eyes when we want to relay a message.  People who date online, however, are only limited to written and verbal communication.  They have the technology and they can also use this technology to find the right words to say; but before you can use these words to effectively connect to somebody else, you must first make sure that your words are also securely connected to your mind and emotions.

Having a secure connection between your words and your mind and feelings means expressing what you think and feel honestly.  Honesty, after all, is the most important element of effective communication.  You may use fancy words or simple ones; you may form complex sentences or beautiful poetry; you may be a very talented wordsmith.  Without honesty, however, your words will still be empty of meaning.

Honest expression, therefore, translates to effective communication.  Are you still undecided about your feelings for a woman you have been communicating with online and are you not yet ready to date her exclusively?  Let her know what the situation is so she will not have expectations that you will be unable to meet and which, in turn, may completely ruin your chances of exploring your feelings for her further should you later realize that this is what you want to do.

Do you have any intention of leaving your country and relocating to another to be with your partner?  If you don’t, make sure any potential partner you meet online understands this from the very beginning so both of you will know early enough if this is something that can still be worked out or if it is a deal-breaker.

Do you have financial obligations that you expect your future partner to help you with?  Be honest about your needs so you will not give anybody the impression that you can offer unlimited financial security.  After all, if you also have love and devotion to offer and you meet a woman who can give you the same, then helping each other out will just be a given.

Honesty from the very beginning will determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.  From here on out, effective communication with each other will naturally follow.

Failure to communicate or inability to communicate effectively; this is often the reason why relationships fail, some even before they start.  With online dating, effective communication is even more crucial because the only connection two people will have and on which they can build a relationship that they can also pursue in the real world is their online communication.

Especially when someone is more used to and comfortable with expressing themselves through physical contact and actions, communication through words can be difficult and even overwhelming.  But as long as one is honest about his/her emotions, then the words should come easily.  Communication, however, is a two-way street; one must know not only how to express himself/herself effectively, but also how to listen.

Ironically, the amazing advancements in communication technology have not made it any easier for people to communicate effectively with each other, especially where relationships are concerned.  Online dating is a very good example.  Dating websites allow people from all over the world to meet and develop relationships and the various and very convenient messaging tools available online make connecting to each other as easy as clicking a button.  But relationships continue to fail despite these added technological advantages.

These advancements, of course, only provide us with better and cooler tools to stay connected; but it is still up to us to build a personal connection with another individual through effective communication.  These remarkable tools are more like extensions of our fingers and vocal chords; we still have to use our head and emotions to effectively connect to another person.

In the real world, we are also aided by our gestures and our eyes when we want to relay a message.  People who date online, however, are only limited to written and verbal communication.  They have the technology and they can also use this technology to find the right words to say; but before you can use these words to effectively connect to somebody else, you must first make sure that your words are also securely connected to your mind and emotions.

Having a secure connection between your words and your mind and feelings means expressing what you think and feel honestly.  Honesty, after all, is the most important element of effective communication.  You may use fancy words or simple ones; you may form complex sentences or beautiful poetry; you may be a very talented wordsmith.  Without honesty, however, your words will still be empty of meaning.

Honest expression, therefore, translates to effective communication.  Are you still undecided about your feelings for a woman you have been communicating with online and are you not yet ready to date her exclusively?  Let her know what the situation is so she will not have expectations that you will be unable to meet and which, in turn, may completely ruin your chances of exploring your feelings for her further should you later realize that this is what you want to do.

Do you have any intention of leaving your country and relocating to another to be with your partner?  If you don’t, make sure any potential partner you meet online understands this from the very beginning so both of you will know early enough if this is something that can still be worked out or if it is a deal-breaker.

Do you have financial obligations that you expect your future partner to help you with?  Be honest about your needs so you will not give anybody the impression that you can offer unlimited financial security.  After all, if you also have love and devotion to offer and you meet a woman who can give you the same, then helping each other out will just be a given.

Honesty from the very beginning will determine if a relationship is worth pursuing.  From here on out, effective communication with each other will naturally follow.

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