When Younger Chinese Women and Older Foreign Men Come Together

Chinese women with foreign men who are a decade or so older than them are a very common pairing.  In the west, such relationships are often viewed with suspicion, especially when the woman is young enough to be the man’s daughter, or granddaughter.  Is the woman only after the man’s money?  Does the man only want a trophy wife?  In china, the circumstances are a different kind of black and white; these cross-cultural couples are simply motivated by the same dating timetable. Granted that even in China, there are gold-diggers and visa hounds, and there are foreign men who are only motivated by their Asian fetish.  For the most part, however, many Chinese women and foreign men who seek...

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Chinese Dating: Are You Ready Authentic Chinese Food?

“The Chinese eat everything with four legs, except tables, and everything that flies, except airplanes.”  When looking for the love of your life through Chinese dating, a foreign man rarely thinks about his stomach, of course.  After all, finding a Chinese wife is about the heart, metaphorically speaking.  Those who are as serious as a heart attack about spending the rest of their life with a Chinese woman, however, should also seriously think about the possibility of a major diet overhaul, especially if they will be living in China. Chinese food is famous the world over; authentic Chinese cooking is considered one of the most crafty, too.  Exotic Chinese ingredients are as exotic as they come.  If you will...

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Online Dating and Communication

Failure to communicate or inability to communicate effectively; this is often the reason why relationships fail, some even before they start.  With online dating, effective communication is even more crucial because the only connection two people will have and on which they can build a relationship that they can also pursue in the real world is their online communication. Especially when someone is more used to and comfortable with expressing themselves through physical contact and actions, communication through words can be difficult and even overwhelming.  But as long as one is honest about his/her emotions, then the words should come easily.  Communication, however, is a two-way street; one must know not only how to express himself/herself effectively, but also...

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Chinese Online Dating and Language Barriers: How to Get to Know Her Better

Unless the Chinese lady you are interested in can communicate decently in English, you may have a difficult time getting to know her better, even with the English translation tools the two of you have at your disposal. If you feel you have found somebody with really great potential, then you must try your best to get over the language barrier. One thing you can be sure of is that, if that special Chinese woman has already shown an interest in you, then she is also willing to work through the challenges in communication. Many Chinese women on a reputable international Chinese dating site often have decent English skills. There may be some whose English skills are poor but...

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Chinese Online Dating: Elimination and Selection

In real life, we are offered our choices of partners; we narrow them down and pick the most suitable based on our preferences, our needs, our dreams.  If the relationship does not work with a particular partner, we repeat the process of selection.  With online dating, the process is pretty much the same, except that the practice of selection and elimination is more overt, organized, and widely recognized as acceptable, even prudent.  Just as it is in real life, women and men alike are put on and taken off “lists” by interested or uninterested individuals on dating sites.  At what point, however, does such a practice of “maintaining” a list of potential partners become unacceptable? As they say, to...

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Chinese Online Dating: Getting Results

Just like dating in the real world with girls from your own culture or a different one, Chinese online dating is, more often than not, a hit-and-miss process.  The internet may be a very advanced form of communication technology, but even with the various internet communication tools a foreign man has at his disposal (messaging tools, video chatting programs, emails), online dating also limits his ability to forge better connections with another person, especially when the bridge must span half of the world and break through cultural barriers.  And just like real-world dating, a man must develop a technique that will allow him to attract and/or find potential partners, establish effective communication, AND maintain the connection long enough to...

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